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| ==hendrix and noah get married==
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| I'm the father of the groom. I wasn't asked to speak. Whatup with that guys? I've been on the periphery, the only reason I am here today is because i typed "hendrix and noah get married in my browser" But now .. I have the mic.
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| I have seen some of you in the neighborhood since you were young boys and girls. And now you are here. That's incredible.
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| I see lots of my family. My family is now controlled by the "cousins chat". I don't actually know what this is. But they are very powerful. One of the best things about marrying Peri was becoming part of her family too.
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| You have all embraced Hendrix.
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| Hendrix and Noah are very nice to Peri and me. They invite us to parties and introduce us to their amazing friends. I think they are trying to build a new world. But I am not sure about this. Sometimes when I hear Noah talking it sounds more like a fantasy world: dungeons and dragons, flying carp getting shot with bows and arrows
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| I have heard Hendrix sing. One time, at Christmas with her dad's family her voice was so strong and clear it blew my mind. It was like Her family gave her superpowers.
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| I have experienced the world of Marlblehead where they do this thing at Channucuh where they share their favorite books of the year. I don't really understand it but you are put on the spot as it were. But everyone is smart and kind and compassionate. It almost makes you want to run away. You know what I mean, Josyln, Eddie, Zander.
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| But this is how Hendrix is like she is, smart and kind and compassionate
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| Hendrix might not originate from her family. I suspect that she is an alien from a very distant galaxy. She is etherial with a little bit of a glow. She is not quite used to earth foods. She is trying to help us.
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| Thank you Hendrix for choosing Noah.
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| ==on mom's condo stuff 11/26/17==
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| Hi mom, Megan, Colleen, Brian, Kelly, David, Shaun, Sean, Eric, Adam and Clay,
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| It looks to Colleen and I that it will probably be 90 days or more before mom can move into this condo. 90 days might be the average time from the purchase and sale (contract) and the closing. And that purchase and sale is nowhere in sight. I tried to check out the listing and went to zillow and redfin and looked at the map and there was no listing at the spot on the map where the development is. No one was in the office on our Friday 10/24 visit though the sign indicated it should be open. I forget the name of the place.
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| There were a few things that jumped out at me from the visit to the condo. The condo association might want to arrange for a fund given by the builder to deal with some of these items as they become problems in the future
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| The first was the lack of thermal break between the foundation and the slab. From looking near the sliding glass door you can see what looks to be a 10" concrete foundation wall with the slab poured right up to it. A quality construction detail would have rigid insulation to prevent the cold from conducting into the slab.
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| That insulation could be on the outside or the inside of the foundation wall. It is in neither place. In the cold of the winter when it is like 20 degrees out, that cold will pass right through that foundation and make the floor feel cold, no matter how high you set the thermostat. Poor detailing there makes me think maybe there are other shortcuts, perhaps there is no insulation under the slab either. This problem will affect all the units on the first floor but for an end units it will be worse since they have so much more exterior wall.
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| There has been a lot of talk about post Sandy building practices and it has been pointed out the the units sit at 9' above high tide. Yet that does not alone guarantee that there won't be water problems for these buildings. Even if you build on top of a hill, if the grade does not slope away from the building or if the level of the soil is too close to the top of the foundation you can get damp floors, mildew under the floor, cracked slabs or other problems. The building code typically calls the landscaping to be at least 8" below the top of the foundation. Much of the exterior wall has dirt/muclh within 4 or 5 inches. The landscaping should slope away from the house at a minimum of 6 inches in ten feet. For much of the exterior that is not so. During our Friday visit I noticed the ground toward the rear of the sideyard was pretty spongy and flat. The base of the plantings around the back patio were higher than the level of the patio. In a big rain or snow storm water could very well find it way onto the patio and from there under the sliding glass door and then under the carpet. Even though there is a storm drain about 25' away, it will do nothing to alleviate the problems of poor construction detailing within the first 10' of the building.
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| I have some questions about some of the building exterior detailing. Under the bay window there is stone exterior facing, the rest is typical vinyl siding. It looks like there is some kind of metal flashing under the exterior finish in the area around the bay. There is a joint between the bottom of the window and the top of the stone facing. The stone facing projects about 2-3 inches beyond the window. Water or snow sitting on top of that stone facing might very well be able to wick back behind it.
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| Though I spent many years as a builder, general contractor and carpenter, I probably am not the best person to address these issues; perhaps an independent licenced building inspector or engineer would be the better. I would be willing to help in any way I can. I would be happy to talk to the builder or research local building codes. It would be good to have access to the building plans and condo docs.
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| ==Peri 2/6/17==
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| Happy Birthday my sweetheart. You are my hero. You are strong and smart and loving. You say 65 feels different and you've been letting your world know. It makes sense. You have worked hard, helping and caring for many people over lots of years. You are a model of a fighter, fierce and loyal, wise and loving, talented and dedicated. On to relaxing more and renewing your focus on the things you love. You have given so much, the world will go on without needing quite so much of you. Me, I can't get enough of you. Lucky me.
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| ==on feb17 trip==
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| [ Friday, October 14, 2016 9:32 PM ] Tim: I like the St Augustinillo. Most flights go through MEX, add 6+hours to the trip and cost $350 more.
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| [ Friday, October 14, 2016 9:39 PM ] Tim: I would prefer to spend a couple of days in df on either end of an aeromexico $450 flight. It looks like we could fly togetr from MEX to HUX for $115RT
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| ==post trump thanksgiving==
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| We thank our politicians for playing on our fears and delivering us the pablum of false hope. But most of all we prostrate our selves to you our god, all predator neoliberalconservatives who are all good and deserving of all our love. We firmly resolve with the help of thy grace to detest those different, to do for our own and forever battle each other instead of you, our gods. In the name of the corporate oligarchy, wall street and the holy dollar, amen.
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| {{:to peri in df}}
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| ==rotten to the core==
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| 5/31/16
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| I feel awful. In the pit of my stomach an emptiness, a hollowness. I keep wanting to fill it with just the right food or the right drink but nothing is satisfying.
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| I am weary. I lack motivation and joy. I am sad.
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| I could get angry... much too easily. I breathe out and I feel shaky.
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| At their worst my dad was a mean alcoholic and my mom was just mean. I have not escaped.
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| My dad is dying and he is not dying well. It is not the hallucinations or the confusion but the anger and the bitterness. He is aggressive and uncooperative in his own care. We are going to have to abandon him.
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| I fear being abandoned. I fear dying badly.
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| My mom too has a simmering core of venom. It comes out in obsessive, petty and uncharitable ways.
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| I have an edge to me that is harsh and nasty. The edge is just outside of of the pit of my stomach. My body and mind exists between the edge and the pit.
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| ==conspiracy is too easy==
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| Hi Noah, I was overhearing you and Peri last night.
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| What conspiracy?
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| Bush fully supports Columbia's democracy. The US supports the Cameroonian democracy. Aristide has gone crazy, was overthrown by the people. OK, truth is stranger than fiction. And it is weird that all good American's supports the lies. I mean, the west has always been more Enlightened. We deserve our position in the world.
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| The sad fact is that you and I both support this system. Like Cameroonians, paying of the military at the checkpoints just to get by, we have bought in too. Look at the tag on your shirt, your shoes, your phone,anything really. If people who made all of our shit were getting paid enough to lead a decent life, we'd be without our stuff. That's why any attempt around the world to distribute the wealth from the tiny slice 5%-10% of rich people like you and me to the majority always get shut down by any means necessary. Nothing is too far fetched, this isn't a conspiracy its just the normal course of business since the Crusades, since Portugal sailed to Africa in 1450. So the children of the privileged yell conspiracy, are ignored, it gets bigger in their minds. Call it conspiracy if you want, but don't get all weird about it.
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| You are going to have to get more comfortable with the contradictions in your life. You never need to accept them. You should probably take responsibility, though. You got to go to Cameroon, when it comes down to it, as part of the conspiracy to keep the status quo in Cameroon. Segregate off the rich into their own schools. Hire teachers from America who get to live large. They can even invite their families who can hire people to carry their shit. We watch soccer from our seats, drinking beer while people try get get a view from the street. Privileged Americans, young and old, looking for niches by a beach where their dollars go far. If we overthrow the world order we'd have to stay home, if we could keep ourselves warm enough.
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| So you make decisions amidst the contradictions. You get off your high horse. You do the best you can each day, try to take full advantage of the education you are being offered. Temper your rants knowing your own complicity. Grow up a little. Your mom and I grew up in a time just as weird. I felt the system didn't respect or value tradespeople so I became a carpenter partly as a rejection of those values. I hated high school, I think it helps me be a good teacher. Your mom never really trusted medicine but does good work as a nurse. Most experiments don't work out. Don't beat yourself up about it. Work hard then relax knowing you are doing what you can. Take up meditation, play ball, play music, watch movies, dance. Ease the mental rants, lessen you paranoia, clean your self up.
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| Talk to me.
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| Love, Dad
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| ==cheap bastard who has a father==
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| 7/15/7
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| Hi Ari,
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| Last night I got home at around 11 and a beer would have hit the spot. (There was lots here when I left.). I got in the evil twin and thought it was cool that it was getting used then I saw the dead empty gas tank. I thought back on the stuff you wanted put in the shopping cart that first night in Laguna then how you disappeared when it was time to pay. Natalie is always throwing something down, you almost never do.
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| # Pay Jim your share of the bar tab at the club for crissake ($30ea) and for the tickets ($25ea).
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| # I need that phone replaced as well. I asked you twice to check wherever you left it with no response. You owe me a Dash for T-Mobile. Buy it somewhere (Ebay) and send it before you go.
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| This would be the minimum you could do to retain any thread of the responsible trusted relationship thing with me. Are you always like this or is it just with me?
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| For a long time I have divided the world in a simple way; those I can do business with and those who I can't. I guess the most essential element is trust but acting responsibly follows close behind. I ran a business on trust and goodwill in an untrusting environment. We did alot for each other, a kind of synergy that increased our power. You need a truck, some equipment, a tool, a loan, a favor, a break, some help, a few of my guys, whatever it was you got it. Not everybody made the cut, some people had a short term view; you'd get the truck back with an empty tank, have to chase down your stuff, didn't get paid back... They were the guys who had a weird view of the world. They would throw in high bids just to see if they could get the job, do shoddy work, screw over their guys on pay day. Turns out they were in the majority, good solid Americans, out for personal advancement. Who can blame them. Everyone's hustlin right? I sense a little of that in you.
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| I found I needed to buy into some code of conduct because then life doesn't seem so much of a hustle, chaotic, selfish and stupid. It helps me handle the hustlers, not get depressed as much about the human condition.
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| As for you and me, here's how I see it. I'd like you to be in that group that I can do business with but you don't have to be. If not I'll just more and more shy away from having our relationship cross those paths. It's not really in your long term interest to head in that direction. I have too much to offer in that regard. I suggest you buy your way back in quick.
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| Love,
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